Local Restaurants Open on Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving turkey

via Instagram @jasoneats

There could be any number of reasons you’re not feeling up to having a traditional Thanksgiving this year, and that is perfectly understandable.

If you’d like to take the pressure off the day and have someone else do the cooking and cleanup, there are several White Bear Lake and St. Paul restaurants that will be open and happy to serve you.

All of the serving times for Thanksgiving, Thursday November 24th 2016 are listed here and were correct at the time this article was written. But be sure to call for reservations, holiday menu information, and to confirm their Thanksgiving hours of operation have not changed. Gobble Gobble!

Forepaugh’s Restaurant, 276 South Exchange St., St. Paul, MN 55102
651-224-5606  forepaughs.com
Serving 2pm – 6pm

Kincaid’s Restaurant, 380 St Pater St., St. Paul, MN 55102
651-602-9000  kincaids.com
Serving 11am – 7:45pm

Key’s Café (Roseville Only), 1682 Lexington Ave. N, Roseville, MN 55113
651-487-5397  KeysCafe.com
Serving 8am – 2pm

Buca di Beppo, 2728 Gannon Rd., St Paul, MN 55116
651-772-4388  BucaDiBeppo.com
Serving 11am – 9pm

Jake’s City Grille, 1745 Beam Ave., St. Paul, MN 55109
651-366-6440  JakesCityGrille.com
Turkey Buffet 10am – 3pm

Rudy’s Redeye Grill, 4940 U.S. 61 Service Rd., White Bear Lake, MN 55110
651-653-6718  RudysRedeye.com
Serving 11am – 3pm

Pazzaluna, 360 St Peter St., St. Paul, MN 55102
651-223-7000  Pazzaluna.com
Serving 11am – 7pm

Obb’s Sports Bar & Grill, 1347 Burns Ave., St. Paul, MN 55106
651-776-7010  ObbsBar.com
Serving 11am – 6pm(+)

From all of us at Mueller Memorial, we wish you a lovely Thanksgiving!

Surviving the Holidays 2016

For all of us the Holidays can be a busy, sometimes great, sometimes stressful, time of year. And if you’re thinking about someone you love who has died, their absence can make the season all the more difficult. It’s hard to put aside feelings of loss and enjoy the Holiday season when the person you love is not there to share in celebrating the traditions you’ve built with them over the years.

Sunday November 20th 2016 at 4pm Mueller Memorial is offering a faith-based “Surviving the Holidays” seminar as a stand-alone extension of the GriefShare program. Using videos, workbooks, and discussion, our facilitators Sue and Cindy, will guide you and help you prepare for a holiday season after loss.

Participation in this one-night session only costs $5, which covers your copy of the “Surviving the Holidays” handbook. The program lasts roughly two hours, and after, Mueller Memorial will be hosting a free Donatelli’s dinner for all participants.

This program has helped many people face the holidays after loss and if you or someone you know is in that position this year, we welcome you to join us this Sunday November 20th 2016 at 4pm at Mueller Memorial in White Bear Lake, 4738 Bald Eagle Ave.

Please RSVP as soon as possible (so we have enough food) at 651-429-4944

Post Election Grief 2016

Many people In America are celebrating today, Election Day +1, many people are not.

Election Aftermath 2016For those who are not I was thinking it’s worth our while to take a look at an objective theory of how grief works after someone dies. I’m not saying post-election grief is the same, but correlations can be found and maybe a little objective information can help to unpack some of those strong emotions you’re feeling.

There are several well-researched, well-known and respected theories of how grief works, but today we’re going to take a look at Theresa Rando’s “Six R Processes of Mourning.” (1993)

There are six processes (which not surprisingly all begin with R) that are categorized into three phases, Avoidance, Confrontation, and Accommodation. Take a look at the model and see if you can’t find some things that are ringing true for you today.Though it sounds a little morbid, you could quite easily insert “Hillary Clinton’s candidacy” for “the deceased” or “the person who died,” and it becomes very relevant.

Avoidance Phase
  1) Recognize the loss – acknowledging the death and understanding the death

Confrontation Phase
  2) React to the separation – experiencing the pain, feeling identifying, accepting, and expressing reactions to the loss. Identifying and reacting to secondary losses–what else did you lose beyond the primary loss?
  3) Recollect and re-experience the deceased and the relationship: this requires realistically reviewing and remembering the deceased, as well as reviving and re-experiencing feelings.
  4) Relinquish old attachments to the deceased and the old assumptive world.

Accommodation Phase
  5) Readjust to move adaptively into the new world without forgetting the old world: this mans developing a new relationship to the person who died, adopting new ways of being in the world, and establishing a new identity
  6) Reinvest. Putting emotional energy into new people, goals, etc.

Do you see how this might translate into the context of your candidate losing a major election?

Now, this model has the fault, as many grief models do, of being linear–as if these things happen in a perfect sequence. The reality though is we tend to bounce around a bit so just because you’re “reinvesting” and drawing purpose from the loss one minute doesn’t mean later that day you won’t be “reacting to the separation” again. This is just a model, not a rule book.

And as we like to say, as long as you’re not hurting yourself or someone else, you can’t do grief wrong.

If you’re happy today, congratulations. If you’re sad today, I hope this helped.

A Fruitful Legacy: Remembering Dickey Jacobson

At Mueller Memorial we always work to make every service as individual as the life lived. This past July we got a call from the Jacobson family informing us that their matriarch, Ella Mae “Dickey” Jacobson, had passed away and they were ready for us to come and bring her into our care, but not before we honored a Jacobson tradition.

Dickey Jacobson at Pine Tree Apple Orchard

Dickey baking sweet treats

The Jacobsons own and operate Pine Tree Apple Orchard in White Bear Lake, a favorite among locals and families looking for an agricultural adventure during strawberry, apple, and pumpkin seasons. Not only do the Jacobsons grow these fruits along the scenic hills of the orchard, but they also use them to create delicious pies, pastries, and treats.

When funeral directors, Scott and Alex, arrived to take Dickey into our care, the family requested that our hearse escort their mom on one last ride through the orchard she loved. At the orchard, the Jacobsons climbed on the flatbed of their hay wagon and lead the way up the hill with our hearse close behind.

Just as they had done in 2008 for their father, Art, when they reached the peak of the highest hill, the Jacobsons made a stop, gathering together to say a few words remembrance and a prayer for the woman who built a business, and even more importantly, a family among the blossoms and fruit they overlooked.

The Jacobson have created a meaningful tradition that thoughtfully, respectfully honors the lives of their family members. We are privileged to be a part of that tradition and encourage every family we serve to work with our Directors to create a memorial custom that is unique and meaningful to your family.

Dickey will be dearly missed by her friends and relatives, but you can experience her legacy every year when the apples are ripe and Pine Tree Apple Orchard starts pulling those fresh pies out of the oven. That’s where you’ll find her.

Our Strongest Team Yet

Mary Thompson Funeral Director at Mueller Memorial Funeral Home

Mary Thompson, Funeral Director

We are always excited when we have the opportunity to grow our team and improve our services. We’ve already received amazing feedback on our additional Funeral Director, Mary Thompson, whom we brought on board recently to improve efficiency, allow for additional personal attention and, in turn, provide even better care to the families we serve.

Mary has an incredible 30 years of experience, and is very well-connected with the White Bear Lake community, living and raising her children just north in Hugo.

She shares our vision for the dynamic future of our funeral home and is wholly committed to providing attentive, heart-centered service to everyone who comes through our doors.

Jessie Siiter Office Manager at Mueller Funeral and Cremation Services

Jessie Siiter, Office Manager

We’re also happy to welcome Jessie Siiter, our new Office Manager, who has been doing an outstanding job of juggling all the behind the scenes details that go into every funeral or memorial service we arrange.

Jessie is a fantastic fit for our team and if you come to our office in St. Paul, Jessie will be the one at the front desk holding a Dr. Who mug.

The impact these new talents are already making in the profession and the lives of our clients is huge, and we can’t wait to see where their ingenuity takes us.

Memorial Day: Minnesota Events and Services for 2016

Memorial Day 2016 MN

image via Minnesota Historical Society

Military History Living Timeline
Historic Fort Snelling | 200 Tower Ave, St Paul, MN 55111
10am-5pm
Travel through the past with a special living timeline of military life through history during this special day honoring America’s soldiers. Costumed staff and reenactors will interpret different eras of military history through uniform and equipment displays as well as weapons demonstrations. See large-scale military demonstrations throughout the day, play children’s games, and explore Minnesota’s oldest military post. More info, www.mnhs.org/event/715 or 612-726-1171.

Fort Snelling National Cemetery – Memorial Day Service
Ft Snelling National Cemetery | 7601 34th Avenue, 
Minneapolis, MN 55450
Ceremony at 10:00 a.m.
They do expect many people, so plan to arrive early if you would like to secure a seat. You are also welcome to bring your own lawn chair if you would like to arrive later. For more information call (612) 726-1127.

Additional St. Paul Cemeteries Offering Memorial Day Services:

Calvary Cemetery, 753 Front Ave., Saint Paul, Minnesota, Service at 10am

Elmhurst Cemetery, 1510 Dale St N., St Paul, Minnesota, Service at 9am

Forest Lawn Memorial Park, 1800 Edgerton St., Maplewood, Minnesota, Service at 11 am

Oakland Cemetery, 927 Jackson Street, St. Paul, Minnesota, Service at 10am. Civil War Tour at 12pm, a walking tour visiting the historic figures interred at Oakland, guided by Pat Hill for this, his 20th and final year.

Resurrection Cemetery, 2101 Lexington Ave S., Mendota Heights, Minnesota Service at 10am

Roselawn Cemetery, 803 Larpenteur Ave W, Roseville, Minnesota, Service at 10am. Organ Concert and Refreshments 11am-1pm

St. Mary of the Lake Cemetery, 1709 Stillwater St, White Bear Lake, Minnesota, Service at 9am

Union Cemetery, 2505 Minnehaha Ave E., St Paul, Minnesota, Service at 10am

Wishing you a safe and pleasant Memorial Day Weekend.

A Memorial Built on Relationships

Kenneth & Sandy Knutson

Ken and Sandy Knutson

During an especially restless night after the loss of her husband, Ken Knutson, Sandy Knutson came upon the idea of having the pallbearers usher her husband’s urn into the church while wearing Mortenson hard hats. For over 30 years, Ken had worked for M.A. Mortenson Co., a local construction company well-known for taking on major projects, including, most recently, U.S. Bank Stadium — the future home of the Minnesota Vikings.

Before his retirement roughly 15 years ago, Knutson served as a superintendent for major projects including work at the Children’s Theater, Mt. Sinai Hospital, and the Wells Fargo Center in Minneapolis. According to Sandy, Ken’s wife of 56 years, the superintendent oversees the entire job and the subcontractors, making sure everything stays on time.

Ken’s commitment to his work and to Mortenson did not go unnoticed. After Sandy’s son Greg made the call to the company requesting the hats, Mortenson had them delivered within an hour.

Ken’s ashes were appropriately inurned in a black Stack-On toolbox, and on September 23, 2015, Ken’s funeral mass was held at St. Mary of the Lake Catholic Church in White Bear Lake.

M.A. Mortensen provided hard hats for the funeral of Kenneth Knutson

Michael Krohn, Ryan Bruns, Sean Bruns, Kenny Knutson, and Christopher Knutson ushered their grandpa’s urn into the church. (photo courtesy of Sandy Knutson)

Using Mueller’s custom urn carrier, his five grandsons were allowed the great honor of acting as his pallbearers. Michael Krohn, Ryan Bruns, Sean Bruns, Kenny Knutson, and Christopher Knutson ushered their grandpa’s urn into the church, all wearing a version of the Mortenson hardhat that Ken had donned for so many years.

When Sandy spoke to Mortenson Company Chairman Emeritus, M.A. “Mort” Mortenson Jr., he let her know that he got “teary eyed” when he saw the young men with the hard hats on.

In a time when people and companies so infrequently create long-term relationships, Mortenson Co.’s investment in Ken Knutson was apparent through their support of Sandy’s idea and lending their name to Ken’s personal and meaningful memorial. The Knutson Family saw the company for which Ken had worked as such an impressive part of his personality that it played an important role in memorializing him that day.

New GriefShare Group Beginning Jan 23rd

From the desk of Taelor Johnson, Director of Community Relations at Mueller Memorial

Hello There,

I was about to send out the brochures for our next GriefShare group, when the thought occurred to me that I’ve sent them out before, and though all the information is there, it doesn’t really tell you what GriefShare means to someone who has gone through the program. So here’s my story.GriefShare-logo-2015 no background

This past summer I lost someone who has been a life-long friend. Though his absence wasn’t something at the forefront of my mind every waking second, I found I was in a funk that I couldn’t seem to shake.

Normally I’m a pretty vibrant person and it seemed that I couldn’t get my spirits up like they usually were. I was having trouble concentrating and began forgetting things, like tasks and appointments, which is just not like me.

That September we were forming a new GriefShare group at Mueller Memorial, so I decided to join and see if that would help me feel…honestly, a little less nuts, or lost, or foggy.

I was a bit nervous as the first session started, but Cindy and Sue have such an easy and approachable way about them that they make you feel welcome and very comfortable. They’ve lead these groups before and have experienced loss in their own lives, so they’re excellent guides through the GriefShare program.

And I cannot say enough about the quality of the program! I admit that my expectations for the quality of the content were low, but I was so wrong. The beautifully shot videos are full of insightful and immediately useful content that connects to the issues in the workbook, which connect to the topics of open discussion.

Discussion was my favorite part. Though all of the group members were experiencing a different loss, together we connected, commiserated, sometimes laughed—and yes, cried—over our losses.

Most importantly, we talked openly about what life is like after someone you love dies. And there are not many places you can feel really comfortable doing that.

GriefShare isn’t a cure, but it’s just a little bit of help to get you closer to understanding your grief and make it all a little less confusing.

If you have any questions about my experience, or the program in general, please call me.

I hope you’ll give GriefShare a try on Saturday, January 23rd  8-10 a.m. at Mueller Memorial in White Bear Lake.

All My Best,
Taelor Johnson
Mueller Funeral Home Logo

 

 

Mueller Memorial Sponsors 2015 Summer Fest Concert

Mueller Memorial presents SummerFest

See you at Summer Fest, August 22 2015

What: Summer Fest featuring Martin Zellar & the Hardways

When: Saturday, August 22 at 6:15 p.m. (gates open at 5:30)

Where: St. Mary of the Lake School Ball Field, White Bear Lake

In support of our community, local music, and fun in general, Mueller Memorial is a proud sponsor of Summer Fest, featuring Martin Zellar & The Hardways. Come out to St. Mary of the Lake School Ball Field and enjoy an evening of great music!

Martin Zellar is from Austin, Minnesota, and has played in bands since he was still in high school. The singer/ songwriter is a local legend, and his band Gear Daddies enjoyed success with their hit song “(I Wanna Drive the) Zamboni” and “Stupid Boy.” When Gear Daddies broke up, Zellar began playing with various musicians in a band that would be called Martin Zellar & The Hardways.

Come hungry and stay a while, as there will be an assortment of delicious food, hot dogs, hamburgers, and brats available for purchase along with soft drinks, wine, and beer from our neighbors at Big Wood Brewery. Another local favorite, Cup and Cone, will be selling ice cream treats, and a popcorn wagon will offer snacks to concertgoers.

Martin Zellar VIP badge

Get your complimentary Mueller Memorial VIP ticket

It’s BOYC (bring your own chair) if you’re going to need a place to rest your dancing feet.

Tickets are available in advance or at the gates for $15 each, and kids 12 and under get in for free. Bring the whole family!

Mueller Memorial has a limited number of free tickets to offer our friends and neighbors. The offer is limited to two tickets per person and you can claim yours at MuellerMemorial.com/concert.html

Stronger Than Steel – Relationships Endure Years After 35W Bridge Collapse

Saturday, August 1st will mark eight years since the I-35W bridge collapse, an event that impacted so many in the Twin Cities area. And for some, the entire trajectory of their life was transformed in that one, terrifying instant.

In the aftermath, otherwise unrelated individuals were brought together through the accident and were able to make room in their lives to support one another.

We recently held a memorial for one such individual. Brent Olson was a survivor of the bridge collapse, and remained a big part of the survivor support community in the area until his death. As evidenced by the people who attended his service, he made a tremendous impression on those around him.

35W Bridge Collapse Survivor

Chris and Brent Olson (Image via The Olson Family)

Brent Olson was part of a Survivor Resources group that met for two-and-a-half years following the bridge collapse; many of the members remain close friends to this day. Their mutual understanding and desire to connect with and help one another in the years following the disaster has endured, and many people came to pay respect to Brent, and to show their appreciation for the advocacy work he did for bridge survivors and their families.

One of the most meaningful and challenging things the Olsons were able to accomplish was making sure those closely impacted by the event were able to claim a piece of the steel from the bridge, in order to gain closure and to forever remember the events of that fateful day.

For Brent Olson and his wife Chris, their concern for others was evident immediately following the incident. Brent and Chris were crossing the bridge on their way to celebrate their anniversary at a Twin’s game when it collapsed around them. Uninjured, the couple was soon able to take action, settling at the Red Cross to be with the children who were in the school bus that narrowly escaped a tragic fate.

Though grateful to be alive, the Olsons were very aware of the traumatic impact of the bridge collapse. They sought support from Survivor Resources, a community organization for those affected by violent and unexpected deaths, including homicide, accidental deaths, and suicide. Brent was a regular attendee of meetings, and had strong connections with the other members of the group, who became his close friends.

35W Bridge lit purple for Alzheimer's advocate

The new 35W Bridge was lit purple on Father’s Day in Brent’s honor. (via Instagram @kaseyvesel)

For Brent and his family, the bridge collapse became a new life challenge in reaching out and finding support, but also in giving back and ensuring that other survivors and their families were taken care of. For that reason, and also for his work for the Alzheimer’s Association, the new 35W bridge was lit purple in his honor on Father’s Day.

Sometimes, unexpected circumstances reveal a purpose that we never anticipated. That calling, however it manifests itself in our lives, has the potential to greatly affect the people around us, as it did for the people around Brent Olson.

For more information, or if you need support after the traumatic death of a friend or family member, visit http://www.survivorresources.org.